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When you lose a loved one, people often say, “It gets better.” It’s been nearly 14 years since I lost my brother, David, to suicide. I don’t know if I can say it gets better, but it does get easier.

That day in June of 2010 profoundly changed my life. In the years since, I’ve graduated high school, earned bachelor’s and master’s degrees, and recently completed my Ph.D. in ecological-community psychology at Michigan State University. Beyond this academic achievement, however, my doctoral degree represents a culmination of loss, grief, healing and resilience.

More than that, my degree represents a convergence of identities. Who I am as a suicide loss survivor and who I am as a professional inform one another. My experiences around mental health and suicide loss add authenticity to my work, and my work in turn gives purpose to my grief. Professionally, I describe my work as turning research and data into action to create change. Personally, this work has allowed me to transform loss into action to save lives.

Mental health and wellness in graduate school

Through this work, I’ve also learned a lot about how to help those who might be struggling. A key part of that is raising awareness about suicide and its prevention. Particularly in graduate education, both faculty and students face a lot of pressure. The nature of science often requires failed experiments and competing deadlines, on top of the financial stressors and our personal lives.

In recent years, several articles have been written about the mental health of graduate students in the U.S. For example, in one meta-analysis, authors found that 24% of Ph.D. students exhibited clinically significant symptoms of depression while 17% exhibited symptoms of anxiety, suggesting significantly higher rates of these symptoms among Ph.D. students compared to other young adults. These challenges can be especially salient for first-generation and minoritized students who often feel isolated and may experience toxic or harmful work environments.

Supporting someone you are worried about

All this information can seem overwhelming. The good news is that there are steps all of us can take to ensure we and those around us are prioritizing wellness and looking out for one another.

Know the risk factors. These characteristics or conditions that increase the chance that a person may try to take their own life, in general, fall into three categories: health, environmental and historical. Examples of potential risk factors are chronic physical and mental health conditions, substance use issues, prolonged stress at home or at work, stressful life events and historical trauma or abuse.

Look out for warning signs. Things to look out for when you are concerned that a person may be at risk for suicide are typically exhibited in a person’s talk, behavior and mood. For example, someone may talk about feeling like a burden to others, they may give away prized possessions or withdraw from activities they typically enjoy, or they may be irritable or depressed more than usual. There is no certain combination of risk factors or warning signs over a certain period to look out for. Rather, it is important to trust your gut and, if you’re concerned about someone, reach out and have a conversation.

Reach out. If you’re concerned about someone, have a real, honest conversation with that person. Talk to them in private. Have a conversation after class or during office hours, or maybe grab a coffee. Transparency is important for building trust, so let a student or colleague know if you’re a mandated reporter for your university or college. Next, listen to their story without judgment and let them know you care about them. Simply saying, “Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been less engaged in class lately and I’m concerned. How are you doing?” can be incredibly powerful and affirming. If you are concerned that they may be suicidal, ask directly if they are thinking about suicide. This can be a challenging question to ask, but it lets them know that you’ve noticed, that you care and that you’re a safe person to talk to about it. Research shows that asking directly about suicide does not increase the risk but actually provides relief for someone who may be struggling.

Connect them to resources. If they need additional support, encourage them to seek treatment or contact their doctor or therapist, or university resources. In this conversation, your role is not to fix the situation but to be there to listen, and to offer support and resources. If the person has said they’re considering suicide, take them seriously, stay with them and call the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline or text TALK to 741-741 to reach the Crisis Text Line. Both lines are answered by trained professionals who can guide a caller through the necessary steps.

Prevention and wellness resources

For those not in immediate crisis, when connecting students or colleagues to resources, a great place to start is on your own campus. Use campus resources such as counseling and psychological services centers, health center deans and academic advisors. Many campuses also have student organizations (such as JED Campus) that help build community and foster mental health. You can also bring a program to campus (such as It’s Real: College Students and Mental Health) or share mental health campaign messages (such as videos and resources from the Seize the Awkward campaign).

Another resource is the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention’s Interactive Screening Program, or ISP, available for colleges and universities. ISP’s customized platform provides a safe and confidential way to take a brief screening for stress, depression and other mental health conditions, and receive a personal response from a program counselor within available mental health services.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988 or text the Crisis Text Line at 741-741.

Conclusion

In my own life, the personal and the professional have merged to create a fulfilling and purposeful career focused on using science to create change and save lives.

We go into academia to make a difference — to use our knowledge and skills to contribute to science and build a better society. To do that effectively, we must prioritize our own well-being and that of our colleagues and students. By supporting those around us and leading with kindness, we can lead with our humanity in that pursuit and, in so doing, create better science.

The good news is that there are steps all of us can take to ensure we and those around us are prioritizing wellness and looking out for one another.